Bad temper | An amazing story...

At times when I come across annoying people around me, I get frustrated and it leads to anger sometimes. But it is very difficult to control others in a given situation, instead it is better to control my own anger. 

I read lot of books whenever I get time. It is one of my passion you can say. 

In one such moment while going through a story on 'Anger Mindset', I was able to relate it with my own. I realized that moment that it is better to control our own temper instead of trying to justify others.

Let me share the story.... 

Once, there was a little boy who used to have very bad temper, due to which he got upset quickly on small things .

His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.

The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence.

Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all.

He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.

The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, “You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same."

When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there.

➽ Moral of the Story: -

A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. Hence it is better to control the self-anger in any situation. 

The Categories of Employee Benefits in an Organization !

Choosing a job when multiple offers are there in your hand brings you to make an important decision as which one to go for. The biggest factor here is 'Employee Benefits' offered by an organization; which also shows how great the company is. Many company offers several benefits other than promoting their employees or awarding with bonuses, however most of them are common. 

Here are the possible benefits an organization may offer to the candidates..

(1) Insurance Benefits : -

     ➥ Medical insurance

     ➥ Life insurance (Health Insurance)

     ➥ Personal accident insurance policies (including the term life insurance)

(2) Employee Assistance Program : -

     ➥ EWAP (Employee Well-being Assisted Program)

     ➥ Counselling

(3) Flexible Bouquet of Benefits : -

     ➥ Gym Membership

     ➥ Eye Care

     ➥ Dental Care

     ➥ Creche Facility

     ➥ Elderly Care

(4) Leaves :-

     ➥ Casual Leaves

     ➥ Sick Leaves

     ➥ Privileged Leaves / Earned Leaves

     ➥ Leave on Birthdays, Anniversaries, Marriages, etc.

     ➥ Volunteering Leaves

(5) Maternity / Paternity related benefits : -

     ➥ Maternity leaves - 6 months mandatory 

     ➥ Paternity leaves - 2 - 4 weeks (based on company policy)

(6) Work Place Flexibility :-

     ➥ Work from home (WFH)

(7) Work time Flexibility :-

     ➥ Flexible in-time and out-time

(8) Perquisites : -

     ➥ Company-provided car

     ➥ Gym membership

(9) Vouchers / Privileges : -

     ➥ Gym discounts

     ➥ Restaurant discounts

     ➥ Spa discounts

     ➥ Meal voucher (for redeem)

In one of business journal column, Steve Job mentioned, 

"You can not mandate productivity, you must provide the tools to let people become their best".

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Note: Do share with me if your organization offers you the benefits other than listing above, or you can mention in the comment section as well..

Never Judge Anyone! | A thoughtful story ...

This is a well-known story probably many of us heard earlier. This story is all about paradigm shift. We human have a tendency to judge others on the basis of first impression, we generally don't analyse the fact in a tensed situation, instead we show our aggressiveness and anger to dominate others. 

The story goes like this...........

A doctor entered the hospital in hurry after being called in for an urgent surgery. He answered the call asap, changed his clothes & went directly to the surgery block. He found the boy’s father pacing in the hall waiting for the doctor.

On seeing him, the dad yelled, “Why did you take all this time to come? Don’t you know that my son’s life is in danger? Don’t you have any sense of responsibility?”

The doctor smiled & said, “I am sorry, I wasn’t in the hospital & I came as fast as I could after receiving the call…… And now, I wish you’d calm down so that I can do my work”

“Calm down?! What if your son was in this room right now, would you calm down? If your own son dies now what will you do??” said the father angrily.

The doctor smiled again & replied: “I will say what Job said in the Holy Book “From dust we came & to dust we return, blessed be the name of God”. Doctors cannot prolong lives. Go & intercede for your son, we will do our best by God’s grace”.

“Giving advises when we’re not concerned is so easy” Murmured the father.

The surgery took some hours after which the doctor went out happy,

“Thank goodness!, your son is saved!” And without waiting for the father’s reply he carried on his way running. “If you have any questions, ask the nurse!!”

“Why is he so arrogant? He couldn’t wait some minutes so that I ask about my son’s state” Commented the father when seeing the nurse minutes after the doctor left.

The nurse answered, tears coming down her face: “His son died yesterday in a road accident, he was at the burial when we called him for your son’s surgery. And now that he saved your son’s life, he left running to finish his son’s burial.”

➽ Moral of the Story:

∎ Never judge anyone. Because you never know how their life is and what they are going through. 

∎ People who jump the gun in most cases happen to be foul mouthed. Just keep away from them.

Image courtesy to 123rf.com 

A Lovely Story on 'Positive Attitude' !!

One of the essential attribute required for each individual is having positive attitude. No matter the person works others or for self, a student or a working professional, be it any gender. 

The positive thinker sees 'The Invisible', feels 'The Intangible', and achieves 'The Impossible'. 

To remain positive do not make the excuses, rather focus on improvements. A positive person finds opportunity to improve self and remains happy.

Let me share with you an interesting Story !! It is a story of a honey bee and a little bird. 

One day a small tiny bird asked a honey bee, 'I witness your hard work day by day and I observe that with your dedication and constant hard work you prepare the honey. But a man comes almost regularly and takes it away. Don't you feel sad?"

The bee had a wonderful reply to it. She said to the tiny bird, 'Never ! Because the only thing a man can do is 'stealing my honey'. But he can never steal my 'art of making honey'.

➽ Moral of the story : Anyone can copy your creation or idea, but absolutely no one can take away your talent. With talent you can make wonders. Let's be positive always: no matter what the situation be.

Image courtesy to google.com 

Stress Vs. Passion !!

Simon Sinek is one of the greatest motivator, author, public speaker and of course a management Guru. I very much like his concept of 'WHY', which is the most important question we should have before we get into any process or service. 

We most of the time focus on 'What', 'Who', 'How' but ignore the part 'Why'. 'Why' meets the purpose of something which we intended to learn. 'Why' satisfies with an answer. 

Recently while reading a magazine I read one of his (Simon Sinek's) valuable lines.

"Working Hard for Something we don't Care is called STRESS,

Working Hard for Something we Love is called PASSION.

Such a meaningful lines with management lesson portrayed. If you think backwards, you will discover that we incur 'STRESS' only there where we either don't have any interest to do the job, or we really don't care much about. IN contrary, the job or work or the thing which we do in happy mind turns out to be our 'PASSION'. 

The Success or Failure at your current job is your BOSS !!

As a regular practice, I do scroll down the updates in my linked-in page everyday - multiple times to catch-up quickly what's happening in the world. While surfing the articles I found yet another interesting concept article written by one of my valued connection (in Linked-In) Brigette Hyacinth, The author of 'Leading the workforce of the future' book, which recently got selected as the best selling book.

What she mentioned is 'The biggest factor in whether you succeed or fail in your current job is your boss. If your boss doesn't like you, they will not give you opportunities to grow and can easily set you up to fail. You will be on shaky ground'.

What attracts me here is the resemblance of the lines in my life. I had experienced the same word to word in terms of good and bad both. 

I still remember one of my former General Manager, Mr. Ranjeesh P.K., how great leader he is. I got opportunity to work with him ten years back in one of the leading hotel group as Training Manager. 

The way he deals with his colleagues, provides enough opportunities to team members to grow and establish themselves as a good employee / manager. He never gets offended for loosing his patience or experiencing failure in his team; instead he inspires people to fight back for success. 

Inspired by his leadership styles, many of his direct reports achieved great success and they are in well established designation today. My professional base was strengthened by Mr. Ranjeesh P.K.  

Off late, I also experienced one of my recent boss, who possessed exactly the opposite attributes. He is someone, who can be portrayed in many words - 

➥ an insecure individual

➥ loves to butter his boss to keep him happy always

➥ can not handle fair criticism from anyone

➥ wants to hold control of his subordinates all the time

➥ uses power to take advantage of being boss

➥ can't be trusted 

➥ creates an environment of fear or authority to lead.

➥ always says in word that 'he doesn't like politics' but 'he is the one who does the most'.

➥ spying on employees to get personal information.

................and probably many more.

But fact remains here is what happens if you have a boss like him to work with? Simple...

As Brigette says, 'He will definitely set you up to fail'.

I experienced the same and I will never forget those moments in my lifetime. Probably I shall share the experience in form of a story some other day.

A virtual session with Sun International Institute, Vizag

"Every interaction is an opportunity to Learn"................

I love this quote very much; as a seasoned L&D professional I believe that learning has no boundaries - be it age, or profession. When I interact with people in any form I try to find an opportunity to learn from the interaction. 

Recently, this week I was honored to facilitate a virtual session on 'Staying Positive during the Crisis Situation' to the enthusiastic students and faculty members of 'Sun International Institute of Tourism & Management, Visakhapatnam. 

I always enjoy the 'feel-good' factor while sharing my life stories with the attendees in every situation. From my presentation, few points which I really use the most are:

➽ Leaving a Positive Memory on other's mind.

➽ Surround yourself with the 'GOOD' people always.

➽ 'Self-Work' works. Writing in your personal diary 'No matter what......'

➽ Making it as the year of 'SELF'. The six 'Self-Dimensions' - Self Respect / Self Discipline / Self Respect / Self Development / Self Esteem / Self Love

 

The Myths of Networking...

Networking, today's most popular word among professionals, is actually developing the relationships, building community with trust. Most professionals and students want to increase their network in order to be known in the relevant society. 

Your professional network should be in place when you need it and you never know when this might be. It can help you to find a job or move up the career ladder but it needs lots of effort to maintain.

Let's discuss the myth of 'Networking', means what does not counted necessarily as networking and how to network strongly.

Other day I was attending a webinar by HBR (which I am really fan of, as I follow their articles, interviews, videos very rigorously) where three keynote speakers - Robbie Samuel (TEDx speaker and author of book), Carol Dominguez (President & CEO, Clements Consultants) and Spela Trefalt (Associate Professor, Simons University) were talking the attendees about networking. 

According to Spela, networking is not just sending requests in professional platform like Linked-In and then asking for a business request to sell their product and services, or home/office appointment for a business demo. Networking is not just collecting the business cards. Networking needs to have a purpose, not just going to every networking event to increase the personal connections. Networking events are not only the platform to create networks. 

One should be purpose driven. Research about the attendees, focus on what you really want to benefit from. Remember to connect with the highly influential people like CEOs, MDs, Resource persons. For this you need to be really confident. 

Most people lose the chance to connect an individual in the first attempt due to their hesitance, lack of confident and quality of introvert. One should never hesitate to introduce self. If you are meeting someone in a professional networking event, extend your hand with your own introduction - Hi, Many name is Rony, I work for Accor brand. What happens the person whom you are trying to connect, will have an idea about you and the conversation will be going forward. 

However, it's fact that most people like their job, but honestly there is more than a job. End the conversation with a high note and remember to draw a line, don't eat everyone's time. You can catch-up again with the same connections with your doubts or wishes. 

Another amazing trait is to show your curiosity while connecting with your network. Not necessary you know everyone, but you have a choice to be very open ended and disclose your professional and express that you are looking for the similar professionals. 

I personally, am fan of Linked-In. It keep s me motivated and connected with the world of professionals. However, I kind of get annoyed when I see there are some people send connection request just to jump on their requirements with business proposal. 

So, here the TIPS for Linked-in users, when to accept the connections in linked-in network?

➽ Someone whom you know personally or professionally or you have worked with in any of your previous or present job.

➽ Someone you do not know, but you can be benefited from due to the similar professions.

➽ Someone who sends a connection request along with a small 'request note', which defines their purpose of getting professionally connected.

Remember, you are not here to network with people just for collecting business cards, it should be a purpose driven. You can have a strong network if you are passionate, having a purpose and mostly you need to be authentic. 

Here is few networking TIPS for you.

➽ Always reach out to the right people. 

➽ Stay connected with the people in your network

➽ Attend the professional networking events

➽ Extend your help to your contacts

➽ Share industry updates relevant to your profession

➽ Try building your professional network online. 

Expanding your professional network is not something you should always think when you are in search of a job, but it should be part of your daily job life. You must invest your time on networking regularly to maintain sustainability. All relationships work in both directions and you can expect the benefits gradually out of it. 

Image courtesy to unsplash.com & reference to resumecoach. 

The Secret Recipe of 'POSITIVITY' !!!

 

While browsing the web today my eyes got stuck at one beautiful collage-design. It is all about the secret recipes of being positive. 

➧ Dash of Love

➧ Sprinkle of Acceptance

➧ Feather of Hope

➧ Smidgen of Wisdom

➧ Pinch of Luck

➧ Sprig of Truth

➧ Hint of Gratitude

➧ Sliver of Inspiration

➧ Splash of Joy, and

➧ Handful of Self-Love

Love all of them - the real true essence of being happy and positive in day to day life.

Picture Courtesy to google web browser.

A meaningful quote on 'Decision Making'...

Quotes are kind of advises which tease our brain to think again or to get motivated. We kind of come across many such quotes - on motivation, inspiration, life flows, success, or even skills; most of them teach us many lessons in life.

One such quote I was reading; it was being forwarded by one of my close friend from Chandigarh (India) and it got stuck in my mind completely. I can relate the quote with many instances associated in my life. Some are really applicable to me and some to others who did injustice to me.

I wanted to mention the quote here. It is actually a life changing line, one must self-realize.